We suggest you turn to the Tao Teh Ching:
24 Whoever stands on tiptoe is unsteady. Whoever walks with long strides cannot long keep up the pace. Whoever makes a show of himself cannot shine. Whoever is self-righteous cannot gain the respect of the people. Whoever is self-centered cannot become loved by others. Whoever seeks glory cannot become a true leader. According to the Tao these attitudes are excessive, unnecessary. Even in earthly matters they are to be avoided. Therefore the follower of Tao avoids them. -- tr. C. Ganson