We suggest you turn to the Tao Teh Ching:
66 The reason the river and sea can be regarded as The rulers of all the valley streams Is because of their being below them. Therefore they can be their rulers. So if you want to be over people You must speak humbly to them. If you want to lead them You must place yourself behind them. Thus the sage is positioned above And the people do not feel oppressed. He is in front and they feel nothing wrong. Therefore they like to push him front and never resent him. Since he does not contend No one can contend with him. -- tr. C. Muller