We suggest you turn to the Tao Teh Ching:
79 TRUTH IN COVENANT. When enemies are reconciled, there is always an aftermath of illwill. How can this be useful? Therefore, the Wise Man, while he keepeth his part of the record of a transaction, doth not insist on its prompt execution. He who hath the Teh considereth the situation from all sides, while he who hath it not seeketh only to benefit himself. In the Tao of Heaven, there is no distinction of persons in its love; but it is for the True Man to claim it. -- tr. A. Crowley