We suggest you turn to the Tao Teh Ching:
28 He who knows the mystic male (Yang) yet retains the mystic female (Yin) is as a great canyon welcoming the whole world. He has Teh and is innocent as a child. Whoever is aware of the white (Yang) yet retains the black (Yin) is as a standard for all the world. He has Teh and has returned to the Absolute. Whoever is aware of fame and glory yet retains humility and obscurity is as a valley that can hold the earth. He has Teh and has returned to Unity. Divide the Unity; the parts become as tools. In the hands of the truly wise they become the means to an end, but never ends in themselves. -- tr. C. Ganson